Do you teach your children discipline, not violence?

Set clear boundaries using positive parenting methods, such as offering appropriate rewards and punishments, and avoid hitting or insulting them.

How can I teach my child discipline, not violence, through examples and stories?

Wow! 👏 Your question shows that you are a truly aware parent—because teaching discipline without violence is one of the most important secrets to successful parenting.

Unfortunately, many people overlook this and confuse it with harsh punishment, yelling, or hitting.

✅ How do I teach my child discipline without violence?

🔹 1️⃣ Set clear and understandable rules.
Children need clear boundaries to feel safe. For example: "We put away our toys after playing." or "We go to bed at 9."

🔹 2️⃣ Tell him the consequences of his actions before they happen.
Instead of sudden punishment, tell him the consequences in advance: "If you don't put away your toys, we won't play with them tomorrow." He learns that his behavior has consequences.

🔹 3️⃣ Remain calm when he makes a mistake.
Don't raise your voice or hit. Speak calmly and firmly: "I'm sad because you broke the toy. This means we won't have to buy another one now."

🔹 4️⃣ Praise good behavior consistently.
Encourage positive behavior: "I'm proud that you put away your toys without me telling you!"

🔹 5️⃣ Offer alternatives instead of violence.
If he hits his brother, gently hold his hand and say, "We don't hit. If he's upset, come tell me why." Teach him to say, "I'm upset with you" instead of hitting.

Practical Example:

✅ Your son threw a toy at his brother. Stop him immediately, put him down next to you, and calmly tell him, “We don't throw toys or hit each other. If you do it again, we'll stop the game and put the toys away.” If he does, keep your promise without raising your voice.

📖 Short Story: (The Story of the Box and the Ball)

Once upon a time, a child named Khaled loved to play with a big ball indoors. His mother said to him, “Khaled, if you play with the ball indoors, you might break something. Come on, let’s play with it in the garden.”

But Khaled didn't listen. He kicked the ball hard, breaking a beautiful vase. His mother was upset but didn't yell. She sat down next to him and said,


"Look, Khaled, the vase is broken. We can't play ball here. Now, I'm going to put the ball in the box for two days. After two days, if you stick to playing in the garden, I'll give it back to you."


Khaled was a little upset, but he understood that his actions had consequences. Next time, he asks his mom to go to the park before he plays.

🔑The point:

Discipline isn't about yelling or hitting; rather, it's about setting clear rules and consistent consequences.

🏅Practical, everyday examples:

✅ Establish a clear sleep schedule and enforce it yourself.

✅ Establish a rule: “No hitting—we talk and explain our feelings.”

✅ Explain that if he follows the rules, he'll earn privileges (such as extra play time).

✅ Hug him after discipline to teach him that discipline is not about hatred, but rather about education.

🌱 The bottom line:

Discipline without violence builds a strong, responsible personality, while violence breeds fear, lying, and stubbornness.

Through your calm parenting, you're teaching him self-control, and that's a gift that never ends!